Leave It at the Door – Creating Change

Creating change is no easy task. It demands a significant amount of mental, physical, and emotional energy. I often use the metaphor of a river to illustrate this concept. We begin on one bank and aim to reach the opposite side. While a bridge might be convenient, sometimes we must navigate through, learning and evolving along the way.

The process of creating change involves making difficult choices, inviting movement, altering our habits, breaking free from unhealthy relationships or environments, and swimming through the turbulent waters of change. This journey can be exhausting, and we often yearn for someone to throw us a life ring. However, awakening to our belief system plays a crucial role, and we must shift our beliefs to align with the change we desire.

Change is an integral part of our life’s journey, but it’s all too common to resist it even when we know that we would be better off on the other side. Once we reach the other side, we can reflect on our journey, admire our strength, courage, and ability to undertake the necessary work. We get to relish in the newfound sense of self-creation and thrive in this life.

As we continue to practice letting go of others’ energies, building boundaries, and creating necessary change for ourselves, we become more aware of how daunting this work truly is. No joke; it’s work and we are all worth the effort. The potential consequences are far-reaching, affecting our well-being, mental health, and physical health. Living with anxiety, depression, or general unhappiness is the unfortunate outcome of neglecting this work. When our brains operate in high Beta frequencies for extended periods, it disrupts the balance of our neurotransmitters, particularly Cortisol.

Cortisol, one of our stress chemicals, is essential for waking us up in the mornings, regulating our stress response, supporting circulation, and enhancing memory and learning. However, when Cortisol levels become too high, it interferes with our sleep, weakens our muscles, and impairs our immune response. Our health and well-being become compromised.

When we align our actions with areas we want to transform, whether it’s environmental, physical, personality traits, or behavioral, it’s crucial to be specific. Identify what aspect of your environment needs change—geography, relationships, or even toxins. All of these factors contribute to creating a safe and comfortable environment for the desired change.

Physical needs should be motivated by health, longevity, optimal health, strength, or endurance. Your physical health significantly impacts your mood and, consequently, your overall quality of life. Your personal reality shapes personality. It encompasses how you perceive the world, interact with others, treat them, and think and feel. When these traits align with your desired version of yourself, your behaviors will naturally follow suit. Investing time and energy in these areas is well spent because it allows you to shape the life you desire.

Change your energy, and you’ll change your life. The things you choose to focus on, pay attention to, or invest your energy in are influential. Activate small steps towards a life you desire. Celebrate your progress by acknowledging and rewarding yourself for each small step. This positive reinforcement can lead to significant change.

Reflect on your dream life and the emotions it evokes. Is it a life that inspires you, fills you with joy, and fills you with pride as you envision it for yourself? The more you connect with the positive feelings associated with your desired life, the closer you’ll be to achieving it. Remember, empathy and compassion are remarkable qualities that allow you to care for others’ experiences deeply. However, it doesn’t mean you have to carry the weight of another’s emotions, whether verbal, physical, or energetic. Your reality and your journey are your own. Build a life by design that your future self will admire and be proud of the person you’re becoming.